Recently on facebook one of my friends made a status update asking all she wanted for Christmas.
Here is what her status read…
- The only thing I want for Christmas is a decent boyfriend… I don’t ask for much really, do I? Except decent men don’t seem to exist in the 21st Century… Not such a revelation, eh?
This made for a great topic and i felt compelled to respond yet in many cases it could be said the following reply would and could have fell on deaf ears.
Here is my reply:
Everyone’s perception of a decent man or woman is different. If we were all the same life would be one boring place.
All i can say on this is that you must open your eyes, that decent man may not be what you percept as a decent man. The non-decent men you speak of are very good liars and in all fairness you will not see through there outer face, they will cheat you and fool you into thinking there decent only to find the truth later on down the line.
That said you can find many decent men but will you be compatible well there is another thing… No one should change for anyone else but only compromise reasonably. We are again all individuals. Never try and change anyone let love grow naturally, give it a chance with a decent man.
This is turning into an essay yet its a deep subject so ill stop here. Just look behind you there are more decent men than not. Never find this man in a night club there is only one reason men cultivate these establishments and you can guess why.
Remember a top quality romantic dinner date means something, an invite for a drink means get your knickers off. Simple really. Hugs X
Now interestingly concidering her age being in the early 20’s one could argue it could be immaturity or maybe just the lack of knowledge, if so then it could well be connected to the education system and or upbringing.
The point being here is that many women reject a man asking a woman out to a romantic dinner date in today’s day where they are more inclined to accept that bar/night club night out drink. It does not take a genius to work out that the majority of men would be taking a girl out for drinking in these places for one thing and one thing only, or at least that’s what there intention is at the start anyway.
Spending some time to really understand a persons real intentions by there initial actions is something that is becoming lost in the 21’st century. I do not mean judge on this just being able to have the capabilities to question motives in all situations.
The final question that leaves us to ponder on is:
- Why when asking a woman to a quality romantic dinner date in today’s day make the woman turn her nose up, disinterested and not willing to participate in the date?